This or that questions, with real answers
96 either-or questions picked from the Rikaido Me banks. Each one shows how quiz creators actually answered it, and how often their friends guessed their side correctly.
How to use them
As a conversation starter
Read one out and have everyone pick a side before explaining. The explaining is the fun part.
As a guessing game
Answer a few for yourself, then have a friend guess your side. It is harder than it sounds.
On a date or with a partner
Use the couples set. Answer separately, then compare and talk about the misses.
As a quiz link
Turn a pack into a quiz, send one link, and see who in the group knows you best.
Everyday life
Small daily calls about food, getting around, and mornings. Easy to answer in a second, and surprisingly hard for friends to guess.
Good for a group chat that has gone quiet. Post one and let people argue.
- 01
Ramen broth?
Drink it to the endorStop when the noodles are gone
Drink it to the end 39% · Stop when the noodles are gone 61%244 people answered
Friends guess right 64% of the time
- 02
Ice in your drink?
Extra iceorJust a little
Extra ice 39% · Just a little 61%273 people answered
Friends guess right 65% of the time
- 03
Food photos?
Shoot first, then eatorTake a bite first
Shoot first, then eat 77% · Take a bite first 23%254 people answered
Friends guess right 72% of the time
- 04
Most divided in this setHardest for friends to guess
Lunch is decided…
Before you leaveorIn front of the shop
Before you leave 45% · In front of the shop 55%261 people answered
Friends guess right 62% of the time
- 05
In a new city you…
Check the map firstorLearn it by walking
Check the map first 68% · Learn it by walking 32%237 people answered
Friends guess right 69% of the time
- 06
It starts raining. You…
Buy an umbrellaorRun to the station
Buy an umbrella 26% · Run to the station 74%215 people answered
Friends guess right 72% of the time
- 07
A long line at a famous spot. You…
Wait it outorSwitch to another place
Wait it out 20% · Switch to another place 80%250 people answered
Friends guess right 70% of the time
- 08
Plans with a friend fall through. You…
Book the next thing noworLeave the gap empty
Book the next thing now 35% · Leave the gap empty 65%240 people answered
Friends guess right 73% of the time
- 09
Phone charging?
Every night, no exceptionsorWhen it dies is fine
Every night, no exceptions 76% · When it dies is fine 24%268 people answered
Friends guess right 71% of the time
- 10
First thing in the morning?
Drink waterorCheck a screen
Drink water 24% · Check a screen 76%276 people answered
Friends guess right 76% of the time
- 11
A drafted message…
Sits overnightorGets sent right away
Sits overnight 20% · Gets sent right away 80%211 people answered
Friends guess right 72% of the time
- 12
Late-night hunger…
Go get somethingorDrink water and sleep
Go get something 34% · Drink water and sleep 66%267 people answered
Friends guess right 66% of the time
- 13
You get to the meeting spot…
Ten minutes earlyorRight on time
Ten minutes early 45% · Right on time 55%264 people answered
Friends guess right 67% of the time
- 14
The alarm rings. You…
Get up on the first oneorSnooze a few times
Get up on the first one 28% · Snooze a few times 72%275 people answered
Friends guess right 76% of the time
- 15
A shower is…
At nightorIn the morning
At night 78% · In the morning 22%240 people answered
Friends guess right 74% of the time
- 16
Browser tabs…
Closed when you are doneorLeft open for later
Closed when you are done 41% · Left open for later 59%211 people answered
Friends guess right 65% of the time
Personality and values
How you apologize, keep a secret, handle a bill, or spend a free night. These say more about someone than their favorite color.
Ask these one-on-one. People give longer answers when nobody else is watching.
- 01
You break a promise. You…
Apologize firstorExplain first
Apologize first 77% · Explain first 23%240 people answered
Friends guess right 71% of the time
- 02
Someone compliments you. You…
Take it inorDownplay it
Take it in 38% · Downplay it 62%240 people answered
Friends guess right 63% of the time
- 03
Hardest for friends to guess
A topic you do not know comes up. You…
Say you do not knoworNod along
Say you do not know 45% · Nod along 55%273 people answered
Friends guess right 59% of the time
- 04
Picking a gift, you choose…
Something usefulorSomething that feels personal
Something useful 46% · Something that feels personal 54%256 people answered
Friends guess right 64% of the time
- 05
Opinions split. You…
Talk it out noworWait and talk later
Talk it out now 68% · Wait and talk later 32%220 people answered
Friends guess right 65% of the time
- 06
Someone tells you a secret. You…
Tell no oneorAsk a close person
Tell no one 70% · Ask a close person 30%255 people answered
Friends guess right 72% of the time
- 07
Your own decisions come from…
Gut feelingorA side-by-side list
Gut feeling 65% · A side-by-side list 35%279 people answered
Friends guess right 69% of the time
- 08
The ideal day off is…
Doing nothingorPacked with plans
Doing nothing 74% · Packed with plans 26%279 people answered
Friends guess right 73% of the time
- 09
The last bite on a shared plate…
Leave itorTake it if you want it
Leave it 66% · Take it if you want it 34%246 people answered
Friends guess right 64% of the time
- 10
The check arrives. You…
Reach for itorSplit from the start
Reach for it 26% · Split from the start 74%167 people answered
Friends guess right 75% of the time
- 11
Most divided in this set
A weekend invite lands. You…
Say yes, then figure it outorCheck your week first
Say yes, then figure it out 49% · Check your week first 51%258 people answered
Friends guess right 68% of the time
- 12
Splitting a bill…
Down to the last coinorClose enough
Down to the last coin 24% · Close enough 76%232 people answered
Friends guess right 71% of the time
- 13
You wake up sick. You…
Take the dayorStill go in
Take the day 42% · Still go in 58%256 people answered
Friends guess right 64% of the time
- 14
A friend is venting. You…
Offer a fixorListen first
Offer a fix 13% · Listen first 87%262 people answered
Friends guess right 80% of the time
- 15
A free night. You would rather…
A bigger tableorOne or two people
A bigger table 25% · One or two people 75%232 people answered
Friends guess right 66% of the time
- 16
You are too tired for the plan. You…
Say so and cancelorGo anyway
Say so and cancel 34% · Go anyway 66%259 people answered
Friends guess right 60% of the time
This or that questions for couples
First dates, texting, fights, chores, and what love looks like day to day. Some are light, a few open real conversations.
Each of you answers alone first, then compare. The ones you guess wrong are the ones worth talking about.
- 01
First-date dinner is…
Booked in advanceorFound while walking
Booked in advance 55% · Found while walking 45%186 people answered
Friends guess right 58% of the time
- 02
Who pays on a first date?
Split itorThe person who asked
Split it 60% · The person who asked 40%160 people answered
Friends guess right 61% of the time
- 03
A quiet moment on a date. You…
Let it sitorFill it with talk
Let it sit 42% · Fill it with talk 58%225 people answered
Friends guess right 66% of the time
- 04
After the date you…
Text on the way homeorWait until morning
Text on the way home 89% · Wait until morning 11%177 people answered
Friends guess right 78% of the time
- 05
Rain on date day. You…
Keep the outdoor planorSwitch to a cafe
Keep the outdoor plan 13% · Switch to a cafe 87%180 people answered
Friends guess right 80% of the time
- 06
A movie or a long walk?
The movieorThe walk
The movie 53% · The walk 47%219 people answered
Friends guess right 67% of the time
- 07
You have a crush. You…
Tell them soonorKeep it a while
Tell them soon 28% · Keep it a while 72%202 people answered
Friends guess right 69% of the time
- 08
Hinting versus saying it…
Hint firstorSay it straight
Hint first 82% · Say it straight 18%202 people answered
Friends guess right 77% of the time
- 09
A fight just happened. You…
Talk it out noworCool off first
Talk it out now 46% · Cool off first 54%231 people answered
Friends guess right 66% of the time
- 10
Morning text…
Want oneorSilence is also fine
Want one 76% · Silence is also fine 24%204 people answered
Friends guess right 77% of the time
- 11
Jealousy shows up. You…
Say itorSwallow it
Say it 54% · Swallow it 46%227 people answered
Friends guess right 67% of the time
- 12
Most divided in this setHardest for friends to guess
House chores as a couple…
Split the listorWhoever notices first
Split the list 51% · Whoever notices first 49%156 people answered
Friends guess right 58% of the time
- 13
Long distance…
You would tryorYou would rather not
You would try 35% · You would rather not 65%226 people answered
Friends guess right 67% of the time
- 14
Talking about marriage…
Early is honestorLater is kinder
Early is honest 33% · Later is kinder 67%158 people answered
Friends guess right 67% of the time
- 15
Love is shown more by…
Time togetherorUseful gifts
Time together 97% · Useful gifts 3%225 people answered
Friends guess right 92% of the time
- 16
A relationship should feel…
Calm most daysorA little electric
Calm most days 54% · A little electric 46%196 people answered
Friends guess right 65% of the time
Food and drink
Coffee or tea, pizza crust, cilantro, cold pizza for breakfast. Everyone has a side, and most people defend it.
Best at the table. Ask before ordering and see who changes their mind.
- 01
Rice or bread for life?
RiceorBread
Rice 74% · Bread 26%31 people answered
Friends guess right 85% of the time
- 02
Most divided in this set
Noodle soup…
Drink it allorStop with the noodles
Drink it all 51% · Stop with the noodles 49%37 people answered
Friends guess right 59% of the time
- 03
Chips versus chocolate…
ChipsorChocolate
Chips 34% · Chocolate 66%35 people answered
Friends guess right 56% of the time
- 04
Ice cream melting…
Eat fasterorAccept the soup
Eat faster 94% · Accept the soup 6%31 people answered
Friends guess right 82% of the time
- 05
Hardest for friends to guess
Ice in the drink…
ExtraorJust a little
Extra 51% · Just a little 49%35 people answered
Friends guess right 53% of the time
- 06
Morning cup…
CoffeeorTea or water
Coffee 6% · Tea or water 94%35 people answered
Friends guess right 89% of the time
- 07
At a cafe you order…
Something sweetorSomething bitter
Something sweet 85% · Something bitter 15%26 people answered
Friends guess right 82% of the time
- 08
Bubble tea sweetness…
Full or closeorHalf or less
Full or close 41% · Half or less 59%32 people answered
Friends guess right 65% of the time
- 09
The refill pitcher…
You pour for others firstorYou fill your glass
You pour for others first 52% · You fill your glass 48%31 people answered
Friends guess right 56% of the time
- 10
Spice level…
Make it hotterorKeep it mild
Make it hotter 41% · Keep it mild 59%39 people answered
Friends guess right 68% of the time
- 11
Cilantro…
Yes pleaseorPick it out
Yes please 30% · Pick it out 70%27 people answered
Friends guess right 75% of the time
- 12
Egg on rice…
Mix it allorKeep the yolk
Mix it all 79% · Keep the yolk 21%29 people answered
Friends guess right 74% of the time
- 13
Pizza crust…
Eat itorLeave it
Eat it 70% · Leave it 30%37 people answered
Friends guess right 56% of the time
- 14
Cold pizza in the morning…
ValidorA crime
Valid 26% · A crime 74%27 people answered
Friends guess right 71% of the time
- 15
A dish that is too pretty…
Photo firstorBite first
Photo first 85% · Bite first 15%34 people answered
Friends guess right 71% of the time
- 16
Lemon on fried food…
AlwaysorRuins it
Always 33% · Ruins it 67%33 people answered
Friends guess right 70% of the time
School and class
Pop quizzes, homework timing, group study, and the last day of term. Works for students and for anyone who remembers being one.
A good icebreaker for a new class or club: quick, harmless, and it gets people talking.
- 01
The teacher asks a question. You…
Look downorRaise a hand
Look down 78% · Raise a hand 22%59 people answered
Friends guess right 76% of the time
- 02
Notes in class…
You write everythingorYou listen and snap a photo
You write everything 70% · You listen and snap a photo 30%54 people answered
Friends guess right 68% of the time
- 03
A pop quiz…
You panic then startorYou start then panic
You panic then start 67% · You start then panic 33%57 people answered
Friends guess right 55% of the time
- 04
Hardest for friends to guess
Asking a question after class…
You stay behindorYou DM or email
You stay behind 41% · You DM or email 59%49 people answered
Friends guess right 49% of the time
- 05
A boring period…
DoodleorPretend to take notes
Doodle 65% · Pretend to take notes 35%60 people answered
Friends guess right 59% of the time
- 06
Homework is done…
The day it is assignedorThe day it is due
The day it is assigned 36% · The day it is due 64%58 people answered
Friends guess right 63% of the time
- 07
“Can I see your homework?”
You show itorYou say no
You show it 85% · You say no 15%55 people answered
Friends guess right 75% of the time
- 08
A long essay…
Outline firstorStart writing and fix it
Outline first 20% · Start writing and fix it 80%60 people answered
Friends guess right 69% of the time
- 09
Study with friends…
HelpsorYou get nothing done
Helps 52% · You get nothing done 48%61 people answered
Friends guess right 64% of the time
- 10
A due time of 23:59…
You aim for 22:00orYou submit at 23:58
You aim for 22:00 30% · You submit at 23:58 70%53 people answered
Friends guess right 65% of the time
- 11
Music while studying…
OnorSilence
On 62% · Silence 38%61 people answered
Friends guess right 64% of the time
- 12
Lunch seat…
Same people every dayorWhoever is free
Same people every day 91% · Whoever is free 9%54 people answered
Friends guess right 85% of the time
- 13
A rumor in class…
You shut it downorYou listen only
You shut it down 8% · You listen only 92%64 people answered
Friends guess right 80% of the time
- 14
Most divided in this set
Sports day…
You want to competeorYou want the bench
You want to compete 50% · You want the bench 50%64 people answered
Friends guess right 69% of the time
- 15
School trip roommate…
A close friendorAnyone polite is fine
A close friend 95% · Anyone polite is fine 5%60 people answered
Friends guess right 89% of the time
- 16
The last day of term…
You stay and talkorYou leave the second you can
You stay and talk 66% · You leave the second you can 34%58 people answered
Friends guess right 66% of the time
Phones and social media
Read receipts, private accounts, selfies, and the reel that turns into twenty minutes. How people act online, not what they post.
Try these with friends you mostly talk to over chat. Online habits are easy to see and still easy to misread.
- 01
A photo before posting…
You crop and editorYou send it raw
You crop and edit 51% · You send it raw 49%35 people answered
Friends guess right 72% of the time
- 02
Posting a meal…
Before the first biteorAfter you start
Before the first bite 73% · After you start 27%40 people answered
Friends guess right 80% of the time
- 03
Selfies…
You post themorAlmost never
You post them 48% · Almost never 52%42 people answered
Friends guess right 85% of the time
- 04
A typo after posting…
Delete and repostorLeave it
Delete and repost 69% · Leave it 31%52 people answered
Friends guess right 71% of the time
- 05
Account visibility…
PrivateorPublic
Private 43% · Public 57%46 people answered
Friends guess right 67% of the time
- 06
Read receipts…
OnorOff
On 64% · Off 36%39 people answered
Friends guess right 55% of the time
- 07
Work colleagues following you…
FineorA second account
Fine 91% · A second account 9%32 people answered
Friends guess right 71% of the time
- 08
Phone password for a friend…
You would share itorNever
You would share it 58% · Never 42%45 people answered
Friends guess right 58% of the time
- 09
Bed and the phone…
They stay togetherorPhone stays away
They stay together 88% · Phone stays away 12%48 people answered
Friends guess right 84% of the time
- 10
A 30-second reel that becomes 20 minutes…
Happens oftenorYou catch yourself
Happens often 57% · You catch yourself 43%37 people answered
Friends guess right 55% of the time
- 11
The same video twice…
You watch it againorYou keep scrolling
You watch it again 42% · You keep scrolling 58%55 people answered
Friends guess right 58% of the time
- 12
A message you can answer later…
It sitsorYou reply now
It sits 64% · You reply now 36%47 people answered
Friends guess right 61% of the time
- 13
Most divided in this set
“lol” as a full reply…
ValidorToo dry
Valid 51% · Too dry 49%39 people answered
Friends guess right 54% of the time
- 14
Leaving someone on read…
Sometimes neededorYou avoid it
Sometimes needed 43% · You avoid it 57%42 people answered
Friends guess right 70% of the time
- 15
Sticker versus words…
Sticker is fasterorWords are clearer
Sticker is faster 26% · Words are clearer 74%38 people answered
Friends guess right 61% of the time
- 16
Hardest for friends to guess
Ghosting versus a clear no…
A clear noorSilence happens
A clear no 43% · Silence happens 57%28 people answered
Friends guess right 48% of the time
What the numbers mean
The split shows which side quiz creators picked for themselves. A 50 / 50 question divides people evenly; a 90 / 10 question has an obvious favorite.
The guess rate shows how often friends matched the creator’s real pick. On a two-sided question, blind guessing lands near 50%, so anything close to that means even friends are guessing.
The two numbers are not the same thing. A question can split people evenly and friends can still get it right more often than not, because they know which kind of person you are.
Guess rates appear once a question has at least 40 friend guesses. Quizzes and guess runs that picked the same side every time are left out.
This or that questions FAQ
What are this or that questions?
Questions with exactly two options, like “Coffee or tea?” You pick one side, with no neutral answer. They are quick to ask, easy to answer, and good at starting conversations.
Where do the percentages come from?
From real quizzes on Rikaido Me. The split counts the side each quiz creator picked for themselves. The guess rate counts how often friends matched that pick. Names and individual answers are never shown.
What are good this or that questions for couples?
Ones that touch daily life and small values: who pays on a first date, texting after a date, how to handle a fight, splitting chores. The couples set above has sixteen of them with real results.
How do I play this or that with friends?
Read a question, have everyone choose at the same time, then explain. For a scored version, answer a set yourself and send it as a quiz link so friends can guess your side.
Why are some everyday questions so hard to guess?
Small routines rarely come up in conversation, so friends fill the gap with a guess about what kind of person you seem to be. Opinions and values get talked about more, so they are easier to read.
Turn these into a quiz
Answer a set, send one link, and see which friend actually knows your side.
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